The Parenting Connection

What is emotional coaching?   According to the Achievement for all website it states, " Emotion Coaching is a communication strategy which supports young people to self regulate and manage their stress responses.  It was originally developed in the USA by a psychologist John Gottman and as an effective way to nurture mental health and wellbeing in education settings."  A parent that helps their child with emotional coaching helps their child identify what they are feeling which often times can be an underlying behavioral issue.  This assists in manage their emotions which can help them be  more self-confident. This leads to better social interactions, academic pressure and overall healthier.   Here are five steps for emotional coaching from The Gottman Institute's website/blog: 1. Be aware of your child's emotion 2. Recognize your child's expression of emotion as a perfect moment for intimacy and teaching 3. Listen with empathy and ...

  A few words come to mind as the topic of child readiness for different concepts for children;  maturity, receptiveness and understanding.   Helping children understand a concept or a lesson that they have yet to encounter or maybe aren’t ready to fully understand can be challenging because they have "need" to understand that concept or they feel it doesn't currently apply to them in the life.   Each child is different when it comes to maturity and understanding of different concepts.   Each child’s readiness is also different.   When a parent knows their child through connection and love, they will have a better concept of when timing is right and how much information needs to be given to help the child understand that concept.   As parents, the need to be ready by the help of the Holy Spirit is critical.   As President Packer (see link below) talked about the teacher who had a student pass away; this teacher was ready to change his lesson to ...

I feel the goal of parenting is to teach, protect, guide, support and love a child so they can become independent critical thinkers as adults.  They start off in the world 100% dependent on a parent(s).  Their independence comes little by little as they learn and grow.  Being a parent and parenting takes effort, involvement, time, resilience, a whole lot of patience and even more love to accomplish this task.  It is more than just birth to 18 years of age.  It is a lifelong adventure. According to Dr. Haim Ginott, one of the  recommended practices for parents is to  understand that best rewards are not physical or material.  I am sure and ice cream is nice at the time for momentary reward for a job well done.  Maybe even being paid to use the money for saving or spending is good and worthy.  Realizing the best rewards are not physical or material things but rather spending our time doing activities or exploring new opportunities with t...

Here's some food for thought as you teach your kids about responsibility.  How do you feel you can apply this technique in your parenting when it comes to chores? FranklinCovey. (2017, August 15). Green And Clean . YouTube. https://youtu.be/z8MylQ_VPUI.  

  This picture of the Parenting Pyramid from The Arbinger Company gives all parents some insight on how to best attain the best connection with your child.  Starting at the top of the pyramid is labeled "correct."  Noticed it's the smallest part of the pyramid.  You might be curious why it's at the top and the smallest.  The idea of this parenting pyramid is correction is the least important part.  Working from the bottom up give us a better idea of how to connect first, with ourselves and spouse then the child.   Let's think of it this way, when you are on an airplane and your getting right to depart, the  flight attendants go through all the safety procedures and requirements before take off.  They inform all passengers of the emergency exits, seatbelt protocols and then in case of decrease cabin pressure, they go over the oxygen masks that are released from above your head.    They recommend that in the event of the los...